Love and discipline

We all want the best for our children and there is no doubt about that. We do the best we know. There are generally no good or bad parents, simply that sometimes we do not have the necessary tools to help our children in the difficulties and pleasures of life. Nor is there a yardstick to measure what is really right and wrong, or anywhere to get the father’s card. Children fortunately do not come with a manual instruction and In part I am glad if that is meaning that each child has their own needs.
The little ones are like sponges. Everything that happens in your environment in the first years of your life, will influence considerably in the development of your personality and your intellectual level.

The importance of today’s love will be a reflection of what they will be tomorrow. It sounds hard. And it is without a doubt that we have a great responsibility before our hands, since as parents it is our duty to accompany them in their learning with quality time and patience in quantity.

Toddler Development

This is one of your child’s most important ages for emotional development.

Around two years, your toddler might be able to use sentences of 2-3 words and say ‘I’, ‘you’ and ‘me’. He’ll learn and use lots of words and will be easier to understand when he’s talking.

Everything your child has learned so far has developed his thinking.

👧🏻Playing and learning
Play is important because it’s how your child learns.

👦🏼Everyday skills
Around this time, your child is keen to do more things for herself.

Your toddler can run and will probably fall less.
If you’re around while your child explores, she feels reassured and safe. This helps your child to build confidence to try new things and explore on her own.

“Parenting a toddler”

Every day you and your toddler will learn a little more about each other. As your toddler grows and develops, you’ll learn more about what she needs and how you can meet these needs.
In fact, as a parent, you’re always learning. Every parent makes mistakes and learns through experience. It’s OK to feel confident about what you know. And it’s also OK to admit you don’t know and ask questions – often the ‘dumb’ questions are the best kind!
Sometimes you might feel frustrated or upset. But if you feel overwhelmed, put your child in a safe place – for example, a cot – or ask someone else to hold him for a while. Take some time out until you feel calmer. You could also try going to another room to breathe deeply or calling a family member or friend to talk things through.

*Never shake a toddler. It can cause bleeding inside the brain and likely permanent brain damage.

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Reflux in babies and kids

There is a ring of muscle (valve) at the top of the stomach which normally stops what is in the stomach from going back up again. Often in babies this valve does not work very well, so milk and stomach acid can go back up and may spill out of the mouth. This is called reflux.

Mild reflux
(when your baby is spilling often, but is not distressed).
Remember that spilling is normal and doesn’t need treatment if it doesn’t bother your baby.
Keep your baby upright during and after feeds. Prop your baby on a pillow for nappy changes and floor play.
Keep your baby quiet for at least 20 minutes after a feed. No bouncing around.
Research has shown that raising the head of the cot does not help and it may be a sleep safety hazard.

General management ideas as suggested above should be tried before medications are used. It is important to have your baby checked by a doctor to work out what it causing the problem.

Medical disclosure
The information provided on the Website is for informational purposes only and is not professional medical advice, diagnosis, treatment or care, nor is it intended to be a substitute therefor.


Helping kids handle their emotions

What is emotional contention in kids?!
is the limitation of the expression of feelings by offering the child a way to manage his emotion.

For example, a hug can be a good way to contain a child who is feeling a strong emotion. Emotional containment does not allow the child to express their emotions or deny them, it means helping the child to release their emotion in a channeled way, through acceptable ways that do not hurt others.

Children need to learn to limit their behaviors, and with the expression of feelings the same thing happens (well, they are actually very related considering that children have inappropriate behaviors because they are feeling bad). There are places, occasions or people with whom we can not express our feelings in an open way or we can not offer the child alternatives to express their emotions , There are some things we could do to help the child channel their emotions and we saw some escape routes to help you get rid of the emotion. But of course, not everywhere we can put it into practice.

When we begin to apply the acceptance of feelings we have to know that it will not be a change from today to tomorrow. It takes practice and we have to be patient with ourselves. We can be honest with our children and tell them that we want to change things.

To help children learn to manage their feelings we need:

Use empathy and listen actively.

Accept the child’s feelings and encourage him to express himself.

Provide children with adequate escape routes

Use emotional restraint to limit the expression of your emotions according to people, moments or places to offer the child a realistic view of managing emotions.





Exploring Parenthood

Parents can help children achieve their best and prepare for adult life by:
👶building their confidence and resilience
👶providing opportunities to learn and explore
👶providing safe boundaries and guidance
👶helping children learn to get along with others.
Each child is a unique individual with their own temperament and qualities. Parents need to be flexible and adapt their parenting to meet their child’s needs.
Being a parent can change you as a person. While all parents bring strengths and skills to their parenting, many find they grow and learn ‘on the job’, just as children grow and learn. They come to understand more about children and what they need at each stage of their development. Parents can also learn a lot about themselves and what helps them be their best as a parent.

Parenting influences
How we were raised and the relationships we have with our own parents are often the biggest influences on our parenting. You might have memories about what worked well in your own childhood and what was important for you. You can repeat patterns from the past or do things differently for your own children. It’s up to you. You can decide the kind of parent you want to be.
Our parenting can also be influenced by:

👪our culture or religion
👩‍👦‍👦what we see friends, family and others doing
👨‍👩‍👧‍👦images of parents and families we see in the media
👩‍👧our life circumstances, e.g. health, job, income
👨‍👩‍👧‍👧the amount of practical or emotional support we have from family, friends or services.

The most important thing you can do as a parent is show children you love them.
Enjoying time together and getting to know each other builds your relationship and a strong foundation for parenting. ❤️

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